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  1. How do you define "maturity"?


    #1052992016-07-21 14:31:05 *Sheep said:

    Maturity

    the state, fact, or period of being mature.


    I've been thinking about the process of maturity which can be defined and perceived differently by different people. I'm quite curious of people here about if they see themselves mature or not. It would be satisfying if you could answer these questions: How can we decide if one is mature? Do we have to reach a certain age to be labeled as mature? Do you see yourself as a mature person?

    note: we're talking about mental maturity (still thanks for pointing it out)
    big thanks to @Enami for helping me out on this thread
  2. #1053002016-07-21 14:55:34 *Enami said:

    Glad to be of help :^)

    While age helps with maturity since the more you live, the more you go through experiences and get chances to learn and mature, it definitely doesn't define how mature a person is. While it is related yes, by giving you opportunities to mature and making your chances higher, being an adult still doesn't make you automatically mature.

    I don't really see myself as a mature person, not just because I'm a kid, but I'm a brat even if I try not to be that ._.)

    As for my idea of what maturity is. For me, It's strongly linked to humility, responsibility and self control. I also think it's about achieving balance in a lot of areas. For example: being able to trust yet not being naive, knowing when to hold back and when to let go, knowing when to be childish and when to be a grown up.. etc

    The amount of times I used the words "mature" or "maturity"... jfc

  3. #1053022016-07-21 15:21:48Sheep said:

    I've had this discussion with a friend before. Though, I don't remember most of what we've said I wish I could have saved our conversation somewhere haha

    In my opinion, maturity doesn't need to have an age. A 16 year old could be more mature than someone older than them, or vice versa. Experiences doesn't have to matter though, nor do the amount of knowledge one has. I think it shows through how one speaks or does. It's probably found in that person's attitude. In their understanding of a certain situation or event while being calm towards the issue/s, what would they do or contribute as to not add problems while solving it? is what I think maturity is.

    I wouldn't say I'm mature since I'm still quite a shit most of the time (lol). I still feel immature with all my complaining and ranting and my habit of starting dramas with friends and not doing anything about it.

    did I make sense D;

  4. #1053032016-07-21 16:22:39effect said:

    a mature person is someone that has responsabilities, not someone that acts like one, that would be an actor.

  5. #1053052016-07-21 16:51:07Lieutenant said:

    In other words, mature is also well-known as a subject being fully-grown or developed, an adult. This is where you may ask yourself how is age does not relate to someone being mature, in this case, physically.

    Though in this thread, you are talking about the process of maturity, which means that the subject may or may not have achieved it. And I'd like to believe that you all are talking about it in the mental, or emotional way. You may experience and learn it from your life journey, and assume that you are mature, or not. However, this is where most people thought wrong:

    "I may be young but I have more experience than older people."

    It's just a form of a dialog I hear a lot from people nowadays. How much do you think is a lot of experience? What if your experiences are just the fraction of what others experience daily? A lot of people now take that as an excuse to say that they know what they are doing. But take this as another process of maturity. You eventually learn from your actions itself, and it becomes your experience in the future, you will remember it again and knock your head on the wall because you will cringe at yourself.

    Personally, I like to put "mature" and "moderate" side by side. They would know how much is too much, how much would be of enough quality to them or to the others. This would usually take a lot of consideration and you would know from the result of their decision, but as usual, we can't satisfy everyone. Sacrifice in some cases would be necessary, and you're willing to live with the consequences. Unless if you're smart, you could be creative enough to kill two birds with one stone. See, there are the words "smart" and "creative" there. I'd like to believe that mature people aren't necessarily smart, creative etc, but possessed a common sense (because seriously, nowadays common sense is so rare you'd consider it a superpower) to get around life.

    Is there a specific definition of maturity?

    Well check the dictionary, for a start. Or the internet. You can always ask people too, answers will always differ.

    Do we have to reach a certain age to be labeled as mature?

    Might be, physically, like I said. But mentally, it's up to an individual to decide it, it's the same as how they would define maturity by their own dictionary.

    Do you see yourself as a mature person?

    This is up to people, who knows if they think I am, or I am not. But whatever their decision is, know that I do not care. But from what I hear from people, on first impression they think I'm immature, but those who know me well say that I'm mature. People are very judgemental even when they don't know you, and tend to make up the impression of how a person is, until they would change their mind when they try to know you well. That would probably be one of the aspect of "immaturity"; too quick to judge.

  6. #1053632016-07-23 12:56:36 *EvoRulz said:

    Maturity is something that you may have in some areas of your live and not in others; maybe you are wise when it comes to spending money and are mature in that aspect, maybe you are unwise in commen knowledge and understanding and are immature in that manner, maybe you behave like an angsty teen and are still maturing, maybe you are an adult and you still act like a child, maybe you dont want to mature in that way because to you it means a loss of dreaming or joy, maybe maturity is something obtained by people who are content with the normal, maybe some forms of what people might label immaturity give rise to creativity.

    tl;dr maturity isn't about just one area of life, and it doesnt necessarily come with age; there are different forms of growth too

  7. #1053642016-07-23 13:01:04Deftones said:

    Being mature is when you stop asking "am I mature", because you're working a soulless job, 9 to 5, you don't talk to your family much because you have no time. When pay day comes, it goes all on bills.

    Talk to me about mature when you've moved out of home, and survive a few years without support.

  8. #1053882016-07-24 14:39:34 *Qarr said:

    I like to think there's a difference between maturity, and responsibility. I don't really see myself as mature, because that's something I think comes with age. I am relatively young however, and although I've experienced quite a bit, I do believe that maturity comes with years I don't have yet. I like to think I'm slightly more responsible than average though, in comparison to other teenagers like me, who's minds hasn't quite finished developing yet.

  9. #1054112016-07-25 05:49:04momo said:

    Just because you can say you're really mature because you've gone through certain experiences in life (and I agree that you're likely more mature than your peers), it is worth remembering that it is so much more to it than some life experiences.

    Often maturity has many forms, it is hard to define in a black or white manner.

    How you will become more moderate in your views, open to talking with others about their conflicting views and equally ok with allowing them to hold fast to their own and not discuss.

    Necessarily, it is caring for yourself and providing for others, without help.

    Conversely, it is becoming someone others look to when they need help or guidance.

    Even making decisions not because you want to, but because you know that they are the correct one (eating healthier, working out more, taking the closer job so you're near family).

    Not to mention, it is enjoying yourself when you can, without worrying about how cool or uncool you're looking to others.

    And above all, maturity is best defined by the first letter of each paragraph

    : ^)

  10. #1054132016-07-25 07:10:42--Jack-- said:

    I'd say how I define maturity is that it is a mix of important skills that you develop on your own, without any lines and binary "yes/no" answers on what defines it. You aren't mature just because you are of age. I've met kids that behave better than a lot of adults, and I've met teachers that act like whiny children...so really my point is that behaviour determines maturity rather than experiences, age, or other things you gain by default. Just because you're old doesn't mean you are mature.

    Here's some behaviours and skills that I'd say have to do with maturity:

    • Having responsibility and owning our mistakes
    • Trying not to be naive
    • Striving to be Objective and Fair
    • Balancing Selfishness and Selflessness
    • Avoidance of Narcissism
    • Introspection and Empathy towards others
    • Understanding our own bias
    • Knowing when to be firm, not just compassionate
    • Ability to entertain the notion that we're wrong
  11. #1055772016-07-30 02:38:31 *armedzerox said:

    Mature.

    For me, it has different meaning for different gender.

    For men.

    Is when he is able to select an option thinking It's the best (for him and people around him and the people that comes after him) compared to Other options, regardless the emotions and feelings.

    Or in other words logic comes first

    for women

    when she is able to use her feelings to make a list of option, and choose the one that is the best for her, while considering the feeling of people around her. And she also do that with words she's going to say.

    In other words trust her feelings

    With these definitions, that's why a king needs a queen, and a queen needs a king.

    Either way It's just my opinion. I might be wrong. I am open to any advice. Feel free to say something :)

  12. #1055832016-07-30 03:18:41armedzerox said:

    For some reason my mind now thinks everything likes epic kingdom and war century. Maybe got something to do with movies i watched. And no, i don't watch games of thrones

  13. #1055982016-07-30 15:31:54Farris said:

    @DictatorHilton S/he said that s/he is open to any advice, and that s/he might be wrong. Instead of simply saying that this is:

    terribly sexist

    I would advise you to tell him/her why this is "sexist", and then discuss his/her definition. After all, finding a good definition (or discussing good definitions) was the main point of this thread.

  14. #1056052016-07-30 22:32:12 *Taro_Tanako said:

    I would question this particular opinion of maturity. It is not reasonable to separate behavioural maturity by gender since reason, logic, and emotional intelligence are universally useful regardless of your sex. These are traits that BOTH genders should strive for and can BOTH achieve.

    On the surface, this opinion does seem sexist. I'd appreciate @armedzerox justifying why this is different for men and women.

  15. #1056062016-07-30 22:32:34DictatorHilton said:

    @Kirn You're like bloody mary in a sense. However, instead of chanting "bloody mary" in order to make you appear I just have to say sexism/racism/feminism and you're there in a heartbeat!

  16. #1056092016-07-31 03:02:40 *armedzerox said:

    @DictatorHilton @Farris @Taro_Tanako @Rebel @Kirn i can feel it is quite sexism since i started writing it. but i posted it anyway coz I carved my opinion from every little experience i ever had until now. And the statement agrees with it. But since the experience will only add up until i die, my opinion might change in the future. who knows what will happened in the future right. ;)

    and, thanks for commenting. sharing ideas means a lot to me