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  1. #291442012-06-11 02:11:51Anemone1 said:

    I think it depends on how long he has been cheating on you, and the reason why he cheated on you... If you think that you should break up with him because of his male hormones or whatever, than so be it. If you still want to be together with him, than so be it. Don't feel bad about your decision though. Sometimes if you make a bad decision you learn a lesson from it.

    ( sorry this makes no sense...I'm doing this on my phone, so it's hard to totally see what I've written, and if it makes sense. Once again sorry... )

  2. #291452012-06-11 02:47:19 *Spooky said:


    Yeah, dump him. Cheaters will always be cheaters. People can only get away with shit if you give them opportunities to do so.

    However, on a more serious note, coming from an educated and experienced middle-aged individual who has had numerous relationships with most of them being serious and committed (one of which lasted about six years with me almost putting a ring on her finger), there's really no way a person can completely justify cheating in a relationship. This kind of stuff is common sense and not friggin' Quantum Physics or Aeronautic Engineering (Rocket Science). Everyone has put in their input so I don't really need to say much but condense this into "Definition of Relationships for Dummies". I'm aware different people have different relationship goals but logically, a "relationship" is something that is built on intimate exclusivity between two people working toward the goal of marriage and the ideology of spending both of your lives together for a theoretical lifetime. HOWEVER, if one of the partners (or possibly even both) just want to satisfy sexual desires and possess an indifferent mindset towards the vital factors in which makes the connection between both partners an actual relationship, it's not a "relationship" anymore, it's just being "fuck buddies". People call it a "relationship" just because it's more convenient and puts forth a more socially acceptable image for both individuals so they can minimize the amounts of criticism and judgment received from others.

    For those coming from a Darwinism standpoint which stresses Biological Functions which centers around the concept of Survival of the Fittest; yes, our primate ancestors did possess an immense biological sex drive which pushed them to inseminate every female in their sight in order to increase the chances of their offsprings' survival. If you think that is a legitimate excuse for cheating and going around sleeping with multiple women while using that theory to justify your actions, you are probably still just as intelligent as an primate with a cranial capacity of 400-600cc yourself. With our technologically advanced and intelligently innovative society which is able to understand and create something called "standards" and "morals", we are no longer consider "primal" as we have moved to the top of the food chain. The fundamental concepts which center around today's "survival of the fittest" have changed since Darwinism in a primal sense does not seem to apply significantly anymore to our modern society. We are no longer running around being constantly hunted by predators and scavenging for food.

  3. #291502012-06-11 04:37:02Anemone1 said:

    @Spooky : that article was pretty...no offense but intimidatingly disturbing... It seems like a good revenge plan, but I don't think that's a good idea.

  4. #291522012-06-11 05:04:59Spooky said:
    @Spooky "We are no longer running around being constantly hunted by predators and scavenging for food." Some people are. =]

    If you're referring to the people of tribal life then yes, however, a significant majority of the world is not stuck with tribal life. Also, individuals that live the tribal lifestyle within a natural habitat also possess abilities, skills, builds, and traits unique to only them which make them somewhat more similar to our primal ancestors. However you cannot compare tribal people with modernized people because they are two completely different things and I highly doubt anyone on this website lives a tribal lifestyle because we all obviously all own computers. Lolololol.

  5. #292022012-06-12 00:13:44HutchHutchenson said:

    Well, if he knew I'd say feign like you don't know. See how long he can keep up the lie while every once and a while dropping hints that you may or may not know. Play mind games. It'll drive him crazy. Or at least it works for me.

  6. #292062012-06-12 00:34:14Anemone1 said:

    @HutchHutchenson : I think reverse psychology or Pavlov's theory could work for mind games. Or do what Jackie did to Kelso in That 70's Show; a test to make sure he's committed to his commitment.

  7. #292072012-06-12 00:44:59HutchHutchenson said:

    I just like to see how long they can keep up a lie before tripping over themselves. It's amusing to see all of that collapse at once for them. I'm somewhat of a sadistic jerk. :P

  8. #294142012-06-13 05:37:18AlphaHikari_1A14 said:

    ^Now that's just torture. It would be a good way to get revenge though. But why do that? Just move on to someone else. If you can spend time mind fucking him, then you can use that same time to find someone better, or just enjoy the single life for a few months.

  9. #294212012-06-13 06:22:42Miyuki_Koga said:

    Do your best in making things clear with him first. Some people just couldn't resist temptations. But if it doesn't work out in the end, leave him. You deserve someone better and it'd be his loss. Someday, he'll face JUDGEMENT >:I

  10. #295892012-06-14 06:28:53mizlily said:

    How does this even work? If someone cheated, are they not permitted to be in a relationship for the rest of their lives? whistles

  11. #297102012-06-15 02:45:17Anemone1 said:

    @AlphaHikari_1A14 : Some people are extremely vengeful when their significant other cheats on them. It's a fact of life. By their significant other cheating on someone whose better, they wish to extract revenge to see who is dominant and wins the trophy. I think that's how it goes.