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  1. Relationships


    #324582012-07-09 02:13:48 *solidbeliefs said:

    I have a method to my relationships do you and if you do what is it?

    healthy, intelligent, and interesting.

    Month 1

    1friends 2couple 3kiss 4cuddle

    Month 2

    5sex/consummate 6ask her to stay two weeks 7trial 8trial

    Month 3

    9officially move in 10meet her family 12meet my family 13Tell her I love her

  2. #324642012-07-09 04:00:57 *Maudia said:

    Wait, move in after 3 months???

    What..? That's not even long enough to establish a good friendship.... I don't understan..d

  3. #325072012-07-09 10:42:47Caarbite said:

    Sorry, you're on Colorless and the first post isn't very informative enough. You're going to have to describe what a relationship is.

  4. #325192012-07-09 12:59:01Xyopq said:

    typo

    1drunk 2kiss 3sex 4cuddle 5sex 6nevercallback 7awkwardencounterinsupermarket 8sendtextaskingifherbestfriendissingle.

  5. #325232012-07-09 13:53:54solidbeliefs said:

    Constructive criticism is fine but those comments were rather condescending. I wasn't informative, well then...

    I want someone who is healthy, intelligent, and interesting. She dresses according to the weather, stays in with the mainstream, and her clothing isn't too revealing. She eats well. She has straight white teeth, styled hair, clean and clear skin, and she has well kept nails. Works outs and Plays sports. She has a healthy relationships with her family and friends. She is Knowledgeable, skilled, and moral. She is involved in politics and has a valid religious argument. She knows how to defend herself. She respects art. She is entertaining. She can discern a talented musician from some smuck. A good director, actor and actress from some hack. She plays video games. She reads challenging and informative books, volunteers and financially supports the poor. She is social and appreciates the outdoors. Finally, she is not from Michigan.

    You can't be perfect but you can try to be and you must be what your looking for. She may live up to your expectations but do you live up to hers. At least, that is what life has taught me. As far as I know I can manage to be her friend in a week and her boyfriend by the second, etc. If it takes you longer than an hour to determine all the above you might want to work on your communicate skills and if it takes you longer then three months to know if she is full of shit or the real deal then your powers of observation are flawed. I can honestly tell you here and now your facial expressions, gestures, and postures are enough to tell me quit a bit about you.

  6. #325262012-07-09 14:20:13 *Candytenshi said:

    Are you describing someone you already know or someone you want? Because you are being too specific about your chosen one. I don't think it works that way wherein you'll look for that girl who has all that qualities and then make her your girlfriend. It just doesn't work that way. Well, not all the time, maybe you'll get lucky, who knows. But you are free to be naive and believe that you will make it for sure.

    Also, it's not about managing to be some girl's boyfriend by the second week or whatever time frame you have in your mind. It doesn't always work the way you say it, that if it takes you longer than an hour blah blah blah so on and so forth. There are no certain rules here. This way of thinking irks me a bit, I must say.

    Not everything is as exact as you want it to be. And most certainly, not everything will happen exactly the way you want them to be. And not everything will work as specifically as you want or plan them to. It's not some science or math problem, jeez. I say stop overthinking and just live and find the girl of your goddamn dreams. That girl you are describing there (but I truly doubt that she exists). Maybe you'll even fall in love for someone opposite that girl you are describing there. You just can't tell for sure.

    Ah well, just stating an opinion. I was quite bothered by that post too. =_=

  7. #325302012-07-09 15:12:09Fieyr said:

    I kind of wonder if this is just a troll.

    If not, I'll echo what @Candytenshi said.

    Humans aren't some kind of math problem. You can't expect to follow some formulaic approach by providing specific inputs and expect the same result. But it's because of this that relationships are interesting. Everyone is different and has had different experiences that will affect how they approach the relationship, as well as how quickly they want to progress.

    I think you'll eventually find (hopefully) that your views of perfection will change when you enter love into your equations. Suddenly, your notions of what make the ideal girl will take a back seat to her qualities that make her unique. The things that surprise you and end up making you love her even more. There are of course a base set of morals that might be deal breakers for anyone. But at the same time, you can't expect to build your perfect soulmate like you would shopping for PC parts on Newegg.

  8. #325312012-07-09 15:30:59Candytenshi said:

    Oh, I was struggling so much to explain it in better words (because I'll admit, the first words that came to mind were profanities because I just couldn't believe this, but things happen, so yeah), but @Fieyr worded it so nicely. I hope the message got across. I seriously do.

    IF it really isn't trolling. Lol.

  9. #325352012-07-09 16:29:32T-man said:

    old man>.<

    ...anyway what happened here? It switched from realationship stratigie to what this dude wants in a girl...anyone notice that waaay to go fellas

  10. #325382012-07-09 16:50:09Fieyr said:

    @T-man - /facepalm

    The OP changed the topic himself to be about "what this dude wants in a girl".

    Replies were only about strategy until he changed the subject. As a result, replies changed to address his latest reply. In the future, you should really read threads more carefully before you make snide, sarcastic remarks towards everyone else, otherwise you'll get called out on it.

    (And just to be absolutely clear, that's what's happening right now)

  11. #325412012-07-09 16:55:27 *Maudia said:
    By reading your requirements and expectations for a girlfriend, I think I have found the perfect woman for you.
    http://www.about-face.org/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/Barbie.jpg

    Okay, that was mean, I'm sorry, but from what I get from this time frame and your expectations, you are very naive about how relationships and love work, love rarely works on a time frame, well at least not the time frame you want. Your standards are ridiculously high and very unrealistic, you expect all of this from a single person? That's just very unlikely and sad.
    You can't even develop a proper friendship in that time frame, let alone an actual relationship.
    Well you can establish a relationship, but it will be hollow and will end sooner than it even began.
    No matter how good a judge of character you are, it really means nothing, and you just seem as others have said it before, far to shallow for a relationship right now.
    Ready for a fling? Yes
    Ready for an actual relationship though?
    http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m63qx1bvx71r3zat8.gif
  12. #325582012-07-09 20:26:32CC_Lemon said:

    I want someone who is healthy, intelligent, and interesting. She dresses according to the weather, stays in with the mainstream, and her clothing isn't too revealing. She eats well. She has straight white teeth, styled hair, clean and clear skin, and she has well kept nails. Works outs and Plays sports. She has a healthy relationships with her family and friends. She is Knowledgeable, skilled, and moral. She is involved in politics and has a valid religious argument. She knows how to defend herself. She respects art. She is entertaining. She can discern a talented musician from some smuck. A good director, actor and actress from some hack. She plays video games. She reads challenging and informative books, volunteers and financially supports the poor. She is social and appreciates the outdoors. Finally, she is not from Michigan.

    Go get a hypocritical Midwestern Christian White Girl.