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  1. Girl/Guy friendship

    #38304 • 2012-09-06 12:13:02 * • Kanna said:

    This conversation came to life at work yesterday. One of my workmates said that it's impossible for girls and guys to be just friends. He was saying, that's how it starts off but then you'll always have one or the other confessing that they have feelings are more than just friends. To me, I kinda do agree by the fact that most of my guy friends confessed to me at least once in our friendships, when I said I didn't feel that way, they seemed to understand or maybe they just didn't want to lose me as a friend as well? I've got loads of guy friends and though I do realise some of them wanted to be more, they're still JUST friends.

    What's your opinion about the friendships between a guy and girl? Can it be genuine or you think there'll always be one side that will like the other?

  3. #38308 • 2012-09-06 12:26:15 • Gargron said:

    Sidenote: I know a video about exactly that has been posted before, in which boys and girls were asked this question and all boys said no, while all girls said yes. Nevertheless nothing speaks against resurrecting that discussion.

  4. #38317 • 2012-09-06 13:30:53 • Caarbite said:

    A friendship between a guy and a girl usually involves talking about penis in vaginas. But, for one reason or another, never involves the putting of a penis in a vagina.

    And on that note, I'm leaving CL!
  5. #38332 • 2012-09-06 18:57:54 • JohnKings said:

    It works both ways so i agree c: being a guy that has alot of acquaintances that are mainly girls, i have been told by most of them that they have feelings for me at one point or another. After i tell them im not ready for a relationship it gets really awkward when i see them or pass them by at school :I

  6. #38334 • 2012-09-06 20:00:31 • Kaladbolg said:

    Personally, I have a few platonic friendships with girls. It's not impossible, but hormones tend to make people a little excited, I guess.

  9. #38346 • 2012-09-06 23:22:23 • XLuciant said:

    It always depends on how close you are with your friend (of the opposite sex) and if you want to just stay friends you really should not get too close because it will obviously lead to something more then that. So yes men and women can be friends but only to some extent.

  10. #38347 • 2012-09-06 23:34:01 • Mairu_Orihara said:

    If it's a guy you haven't dated, then nope. You and/or him will feel some sort of romantic feelings. Now, if the girl/guy was your ex and you guys broke up pretty bad. You could be friends again because you both know that you tried and it didn't work. Why try again when you ended so badly?

  11. #38350 • 2012-09-06 23:50:00 • sonicx said:

    yes they cAn because i have a few friend who ar girl but that doesnt mean i woudnt like to go out with them

  12. #38355 • 2012-09-07 00:08:25 • Tsukiko said:

    I lol @the guy eating the sandwich in the first video, But back to the topic. I think that it all depends on the situation (friendship between guy & girl). My reason is that there are times where yes both guy and girl do end up falling for one another (in time) and so "Just" being friends later on ends up either hurting someone's feeling or causing the friendship to be in an awkward situation. Then in other occasions, there are relationships where both guy and girl are just friends. Like I said it all depends.

  13. #38357 • 2012-09-07 00:10:42 • Trev said:

    It gets easier to be "just friends" when the teenage hormones are gone, and when your self-esteem lets you know that you've had a respectable amount of romance. I can see why this is generally true when you're younger, but I don't believe that "guys and girls can't be friends" per se.

    I will say, though, that uneven relationships are unhealthy, and that guys fail to realize that wearing down a girl who doesn't really find them all that attractive is a high effort/low reward situation, and also that taking advantage of someone's attraction to you selfishly is morally questionable.

  14. #38358 • 2012-09-07 00:25:43 • megumi-tan said:

    Makes me wonder. If I met a guy who had girl like features and dressed in drag, and we became friends and I never knew he was a guy, could we be friends? Yes. So guys and girls can be just friends. :D

  15. #38359 • 2012-09-07 00:33:59 • Momimochi said:

    if you want to just stay friends you really should not get too close because it will obviously lead to something more then that.

    ... Well, I have a friend that I'm, in a sense, ridiculously close with (READ: Mainly because same opinion on EVERYTHING) and he's something like a brother to me. Last time someone suggested the idea that maybe one of us liked the other, we both retched.

    So, yes, I guess, if they're like, you're brother/sister from another mother or something.

    For you idiots who has yet to figure out my gender: I'm female. Amazing, I know.

  18. #38366 • 2012-09-07 03:11:08 • Jenna38 said:

    I don't care what anyone else says, it's definitely POSSIBLE for guys and girls to be friends. I have alot of guy friends but none of them want to be anything more and even if they did it's still possible to keep a stable friendship. Actually for me, it's not really that guys and girls can't be friends, it's that they can't be aqaintances. They could be work partners or classmates but NOT aqaintances- TRUST ME. Things just get awkward when ppl are aqaintances because they think they know you but really they just DON'T. You're either friends with somebody or you're not and that's all. Relationships are a whole different story.

  21. #38370 • 2012-09-07 03:48:32 * • Momimochi said:

    if you want to just stay friends you really should not get too close because it will obviously lead to something more then that.

    ... Well, I have a friend that I'm, in a sense, ridiculously close with (READ: Mainly because same opinion on EVERYTHING) and he's something like a brother to me. Last time someone suggested the idea that maybe one of us liked the other, we both retched.

    So, yes, I guess, if they're like, you're brother/sister from another mother or something.

    For you idiots who has yet to figure out my gender: I'm female. Amazing, I know.

    Oh wait, I forgot the "but".

    BUT...

    That's probably because to me, he's like another girl(friend) that I can share secrets and crap with and to him, I'm probably like another boy(friend) that he can do the same to. HOHOHO...

    EDIT: Yeah, that's definitely the case. And probably why we get along so well most of the time. (but when shit goes down...)

  22. #38393 • 2012-09-07 12:25:38 • CloudVariasKira said:

    Meh I call it a toss up... I dislike guys but being one myself that might sound odd hmmm but im a celo at my school I dont date girls in the same area as me so I care not about the girls here so I dont talk to them but the guy friends I have are sluts and real dumb-asses soo I like girl friends better since its long distance theres no-mix ups

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